My daughter is three years old. We moved her from her crib to a toddler bed about a year ago. It was a little early but I had abdominal surgery and I couldn't lift her over the rail.
It went fine for a few months, but never mind fuck it
I can't tell the whole story because it is long and boring. The point is that a few weeks ago she started claiming that her belly hurts when she is alone and she needs someone to lay with her. Either my husband or I lie down with her until she falls asleep. She usually wakes up in the middle of the night and comes in our bed. By morning my husband is usually on the floor or sofa. She kicks out all night. We both work. The family bed is not for us
We decided to break her of this and now she has been crying for two hours straight. I know that is to be expected but she keeps choking and hyper ventilating.
I would really appreciate any advice or just words of encouragement. Please, before I lose it.
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No advice, sorry! Just wanting to send some good vibes and some calm for the little one.
-Constance the Super
You will get through it. And you will all be better off for it. Everyone needs their sleep especially your daughter. Think of it this way, you are teaching her now how to have a lifetime of good sleep habits! Have a glass of wine, and chant, this will not last forever.
Hi. I happened upon your blog and I just had to respond. I'm 56 so my kids are grown, but I remember my daughter doing the same thing. I remember telling my husband, "I don't know whether to go in there and hug her or kill her". It was one of the most painful nights for all of us. I swore I would never do that again. I think the next night, I told her that I would come in every ___ minutes to check on her. She could not get up and I would not pick her up, but would give her a hug and kiss n'night. We did that for 20 years (kidding of course) and it probably took a couple of weeks. When we decide it's time for them to start doing something a different way,I think they are caught a little off guard and use what power they have (screaming, banging, bargaining, etc. to keep the status quo. After all, being alone is a scary place, but your little one will learn ways to comfort herself. We did "happy thoughts", we got her a glow worm - I still have it and it's stained with tears. You need to know that this isn't something you are doing "to" her, it's something you are doing "for" her. My heart goes out to you because I remember that night clearly. It's ok to check on her periodically as long as she knows why you're coming there - just to comfort not to rescue. Hope this helps - I'll be thinking of youtonight. Linda
Hi. I happened upon your blog and I just had to respond. I'm 56 so my kids are grown, but I remember my daughter doing the same thing. I remember telling my husband, "I don't know whether to go in there and hug her or kill her". It was one of the most painful nights for all of us. I swore I would never do that again. I think the next night, I told her that I would come in every ___ minutes to check on her. She could not get up and I would not pick her up, but would give her a hug and kiss n'night. We did that for 20 years (kidding of course) and it probably took a couple of weeks. When we decide it's time for them to start doing something a different way,I think they are caught a little off guard and use what power they have (screaming, banging, bargaining, etc. to keep the status quo. After all, being alone is a scary place, but your little one will learn ways to comfort herself. We did "happy thoughts", we got her a glow worm - I still have it and it's stained with tears. You need to know that this isn't something you are doing "to" her, it's something you are doing "for" her. My heart goes out to you because I remember that night clearly. It's ok to check on her periodically as long as she knows why you're coming there - just to comfort not to rescue. Hope this helps - I'll be thinking of youtonight. Linda
Ug, sorry! There is NOTHING like sleep issues! My daughter has them, too. I swear, every night since she was born has been one challenge or another---she switches it up to keep things interesting. We WILL get through this.
My son did the exact same thing at around the same age. It is awful, awful, gahhhh. I remember when we finally decided we had to let him deal with it. He stood at the door crying "momma, save me, please, I love you" my husband was drinking, and I was pregnant so I couldn't. It was one of the worst nights of my life. But every night got better, and after a week or so he was ok. I really feel for ya. You are doing the right thing.
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